Fear is the limiter and it’s worse than you imagine
Fear always gets in the way of change but less fear of failure or even fear of success - it’s fear of both. Let me explain. Say you want to go on a diet to lose weight. But what if it doesn’t work? You spend money on a product, suffer and starve, only to gain two pounds in the end and feel like a loser.
But what if it works? You lose all the weight you want and then some and now you have another problem - do people actually like you or just your appearance? Maybe before you didn’t get much attention in social situations and now you're overwhelmed with attention, some of it far more aggressive than you can stomach.
That’s also scary.
Furthermore, you don’t know which direction it’s going to play out so that uncertainty is scary, too.
Fear. Fear. Fear.
Real change happens when you can get past fear. And what is the ultimate fear killer? Love. Loving the idea of new possibilities. Love who you’ll become as you set about further examination of self discovery. Love of the curiosity and fascination you’re able to open yourself up to.
The goal isn’t to get rid of fear, but to have love ring much louder so the noise fear makes is harder to hear. It’s not as simple as feeling the fear and doing it anyway. It’s about feeling the love and then having action occur as a natural byproduct.
Extra credit if you love who you are now and use that to foster love for the future you.